Monday, November 30, 2009

Magic Marker Monday: Turkey art

Little Bitty made some cute Thanksgiving art in school this year :).

Here's his little handprint:

And he made a cute turkey hat (that he didn't want to wear so this was the best picture I could get before he took it off):

Here's the hat so you can actually see it :)

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Thursday, November 26, 2009

Happy Thanksgiving!


There is so much to be grateful for, today and always.

A loving Father in Heaven who wants only the best for us.

Family. A husband who loves me and our boys. Three beautiful boys who bring me joy each and every day. And everyone else in our family.

Friends - both those I know in person and those I haven't actually met outside of the blogosphere but feel a closeness with regardless.

Amazing teachers and therapists for our boys. I'm thankful that our boys attend a school that is set up to help them be successful.

The comforts of home, gainful employment, Poptarts and Pokemon.

I could go on, but it's late and I really need to get some sleep before Bitty wakes up.

The weather here has been beautiful lately... finally some let up in the constant rain we had for a while and we've been able to spend our weekends outside.

Work has been crazy busy, but that's not necessarily a bad thing :).

We got some new Christmas decorations and are planning to put up lights outside our house for the first time this year. Not Griswold-style or anything, but hopefully it will look nice :).

The boys are doing well. Bearhug seems to have the rage / outbursts somewhat under control, although we are still struggling with his impulsive need to run off and hide at times. I swear my heart cannot take that!! Cuddlebug is doing great, and Bitty continues to be full of surprises :).

Cuddlebug and Bearhug have long had sleep issues, and at their latest checkup their pediatrician suggested we try melatonin. We've used it two nights in a row and it seems to be helping, so that is good.

Perhaps I should try some too?

Ok, I'm going to bed now.

I wish each of you a wonderful Thanksgiving!

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Thursday, November 12, 2009

Halloween 2009

Thanks again for your thoughts and prayers on Bearhug's behalf. We've also gotten some good suggestions... we're going to get this figured out. So far this week has been pretty good (yay!).

On a lighter note, here are some pictures and a recap from Halloween :).

I couldn't figure out how I was going to make a Salamence (Pokemon) costume, so we tried taking the boys to the Halloween store to see if they could find a costume there. No luck. I asked Cuddlebug what his second choice would be, and he named another Pokemon. Third choice? Another Pokemon. None of which are readily available as costumes.

And to add to the fun, Bearhug decided with just over a week to go that he wanted to dress up after all, as Garchomp (yep, also a Pokemon). So I headed to the craft store. I had some pictures from the internet to use as a guide of what the characters were supposed to look like, and I used the boys' clothes as a guide for the size / shape (being careful to err on the side of "too big" rather than "too small").

Here are the finished costumes, with the characters' pictures:

And the boys wearing their costumes. They were so excited to dress up as Pokemon :).

Bearhug as Garchomp:

Cuddlebug as Salamence:

And you can't dress up as Pokemon without having a Pokemon-battle, of course :)

Little Bitty was not at all interested in costumes or trick-or-treating. We did, however, discover that he loves to eat "M's" (M&M's). :)

So I took Cuddlebug and Bearhug out trick-or-treating.

Bitty stayed home with dh to hand out candy. When we made it back to our house, we found him relaxing, curled up with a blankie (they were in the garage which dh had decorated for Halloween).

Bearhug and Cuddlebug went inside to check out their stash. They sorted all the candy by type and lined them up in rows.

Bitty was curious and came over to inspect the candy too. Here all three of them are busy counting. There were 153 pieces of candy in total :).

Cuddlebug did the math the next day to figure out how many days the candy would last if each of us ate one piece each day... but we haven't exactly done that ;).

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Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Veterans Day

A heartfelt thank you to those who have served or are serving in our military (which includes many of our family members). Freedom isn't free, and I am eternally grateful for the courage and sacrifice of our armed forces who defend freedom here and abroad.

And for my favorite veteran...

(that's my dad for those who don't recognize him, this was taken in Iraq during Desert Storm)

... here's a cool video I found online that I thought you'd enjoy :)

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Sunday, November 8, 2009

Still here... and an update

I feel like I've kind of gone AWOL from the blogosphere for a couple of weeks, but I wanted to say thank you for your kind words, suggestions, and encouragement in response to my last post.

Bearhug is still struggling and we have no idea why. It feels like we are in new territory here... at first I thought it was a result of sensory overload / stress but now I'm thinking it may be more than that.

Whatever it is, it has really escalated in the last few weeks. We're seeing a lot of anger, rage would be a better description really. Aside from that he seems kind of sullen, even sad. I spoke with his resource teacher and the parapros that work with her, they're seeing similar things at school. He had a pretty intense outburst at school this past week.

Sundays are the worst. Two weeks in a row he took off running at church and went missing. We found him hiding in the bathroom both times, but talk about stress! The first time I was fighting panic, not sure if he was even still in the building or not. Several people helped me look (dh was teaching a class and didn't know about all this until after Bearhug was found), and he finally turned up in the bathroom. He had his feet up so no one would see him and wasn't answering when we called out to him, but the second time someone checked, they spotted his shirt through the crack in the stall (Bearhug later said he hadn't had time to cover up the cracks with toilet paper... ugh).

The second time at least we knew to check the bathrooms and sure enough that's where he was again. Once he was found, he refused to come out and instead stayed in there screaming at the top of his lungs. We've tried to accommodate him by taking turns taking him outside for walks, but it doesn't seem to be enough.

His teacher said he has made comments about feeling worthless, and since then he has made a couple of similar comments at home. She suspected it might be the influence of the "Diary of a Wimpy Kid" books, which he really seems to be taking way too seriously. He admitted that sometimes those books make him feel bad - and although I don't really think the books are the cause of the problem it's possible they were making it worse, so we took them away for now. They're supposed to be funny (I read the first one and actually thought it was cute... but what do I know?).

Some of his behavior seems to have an attention-seeking element to it (he'll do something he KNOWS he's not supposed to do and look around to see if anyone notices), but giving him extra attention (not rewarding the bad behavior, but going the extra mile to give him praise, etc. when he's doing good) doesn't really seem to be helping. In fact, today when I told him I was proud of him for his grades at school this week (after looking through his weekly folder), he got upset with me.

Yesterday, he really scared us when he took off running and hid in the neighborhood. It's the first time he's done anything like that before. I mean, we had to watch him like a hawk when he was younger because he would run off but it was different... he was usually intrigued by something or he just wanted to run, he wasn't necessarily trying to get away from us. Yesterday, that's precisely what he was doing, and it was dark outside and I'm not sure even now he really understands how dangerous it was to do that.

He was coming home from playing with his friends (two doors down across the street) and I asked him if he was hungry. Dh told him I had ordered pizza and asked if he wanted some. He lunged at dh and then took off running past our house. I heard him banging on the back door and went to open it, and by the time I got the door open he was nowhere to be seen. I thought he was just messing with me and went back to the front door, but dh (who was across the street) said he hadn't come back around and thought he'd gone into the house. At that point we had no idea where he was, but it was getting dark. There's a bunch of trees behind our house and I was worried he'd gone in there. Dh grabbed a flashlight and went to look for him while I stayed with Cuddlebug and Bitty. I watched for him out the door. The boys he'd been playing with helped look for him, and dh was about to round up the neighbors to help too, when they spotted him. He'd been hiding behind one of the houses nearby :(. He was clearly upset, resisting coming into the house and trying to run away again. When he came in, he ran up the stairs, hid under his blanket, and was crying, refusing to talk to us. We finally convinced him to eat dinner, and then he seemed to feel a little better, but a while later he was upset again and tried to run outside again. Luckily he wasn't trying too hard, and I was able to keep him inside without a huge blowout.

A while after that, he was complaining of nausea and dizziness and wanted all the lights out. He said he'd been "exercising" trying to get "those things in your stomach, I can't remember what they're called," (turns out he was talking about "abs") pretty much the entire time he'd been playing that day. I think he overdid it and actually made himself sick. It almost seemed like a migraine but he didn't say his head hurt other than feeling dizzy ("it feels like I'm moving but I'm not").

The only answer we could get from him - then and even today - was that he didn't like the questions we asked him. What horrifying questions did we dare to ask? The ones about "are you hungry" and "do you want some of the pizza your mom ordered?" Maybe he wasn't feeling well from overdoing it and something that simple was all it took to set him off. I don't know.

I am really at a loss here. It is heartbreaking to see him going through this and not knowing what "this" is, or how to help him. The bad days are exhausting - emotionally and physically - and the good days it feels like we are walking on eggshells trying to keep the peace. Every time he has a couple of good days in a row I start thinking maybe things are looking up only to get socked in the gut with a day like yesterday.

Someone mentioned hormones, and it sounds strange but I've done some reading and apparently pre-puberty hormone changes can have a significant impact on children with autism, as early as 7-9 yrs old. Maybe that's at least part of it, I honestly don't know. He is having mood swings like we haven't seen before.

He was cranky today... but this evening he seemed to be feeling a little better. He let me sit with him and we read some books together. It was nice :).

We have a checkup scheduled for him and Cuddlebug a week from tomorrow, maybe his doctor will have some ideas. His resource teacher has been really helpful, she is awesome. She's been working with him since Kindergarten so she knows this is not like him.

I'm open for suggestions... and if you're inclined to pray, a little extra prayer for Bearhug would be greatly appreciated.

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